When Happyness Is Right Underneath The Surface

December 16, 2010 § Leave a comment

You know that feeling you get when something is right on the tip of your tongue. You’re trying to remember something, maybe a name or a place or a movie you once saw. It’s right there, you know it but it just won’t show itself or come to light. I’m not sure if there’s a scientific name for that place of memory but for the purposes of this article we’ll just call it limbo.

Most of our happyness in life is typically stuck in this limbo-istic area. It’s as if it lies not too deep but not exactly showing but just right underneath the surface. If only we could get to through that one layer, we’d find what we’ve been searching for.

I don’t have any facts or evidence but I’m willing to bet that this is how happyness works for a majority of people. We are all in a scramble to get through that layer. To achieve our dreams, goals, and desires.

But what not everyone understand is that happyness has to be pursued. So even once we reach that first layer, there’s still plenty more to go. The reason we become truly unhappy with our lives or circumstance is when we remain stuck in limbo. Limbo can a nightmare where it always seems like a guy with razors on his hand is trying to get you.

When you have a goal or when you find a purpose it can be tough getting out of limbo and penetrating all those layers. So how do we do it? Corbett Barr recently posted his Plan to Achieve Anything which is a great place to start.

Having Discipline, remaining Focused, and keeping Patience is always my philosophy. All of these concepts are easier said then done but not impossible. I continually have to align my goals with these points. It’s an unwavering battle but a necessary one to reach all the surface layers that are just waiting to be unveiled.

Fading Moments of Happyness

December 14, 2010 § Leave a comment

How many times in your life have you really been happy?

Truly happy moments we remember forever. Those times or instances never seem to fade from our memory. My most recent happy moments was my wedding day and my honeymoon. My wedding day has so far been the happiest day of my entire life and I will remember it as that for as long as I live. My next most happiest time besides that was our honeymoon in Aruba. It was so beautiful, so peaceful, no worries and I was able to be there with the woman I loved.

The wedding day is exactly that, just a day. And the honeymoon lasted 7 days. So I guess the crazy thing is that out of all the days we live I can only recount 8 of them and tell you they were the happyiest days of my life? There’s 365 days in a year and yet I was only happy for 2% of them. KEEP IN MIND THAT WAS ALL IN THE SAME YEAR.

If you ask me there is something definitely wrong with that equation. Sure we’re all happy when we’re kids and things happen. I can probably recall a few of those times as well. But still if you add them all up over the course of the days of your life, will it still be over 2%?

I understand that we can’t be happy 24/7. But there is something seriously wrong if that’s the equation we live by. So I’m asking someone, anyone to try and give me a better looking formula. Can anyone else do some math for me and tell me what they work out?

I’m curious to know.

The Happyness Illusion Project

December 14, 2010 § Leave a comment

I just realized something. Not really a major discovery or even life changing. Call it more of an observation.

No Matter How Much We Pursue Happyness Once We “Get It” It Can Still Be An Illusion.

Happiness is suppose to be something that we seek within. While I believe this to be true I don’t think it is easy at all for any of us.

One of my favorite movies is the Pursuit of Happyness. In the movie Chris Gardner had real problems. Problems that caused him to become moneyless and homeless. Problems that would break most people. But he knew what he wanted, and he pursued it.

Over the past year I’ve been on an exploration. I didn’t journey caves in a mystic land or the jungles in a tropical forest. My exploration has been an internal journey through my heart and the depths of my mind.

I’ve been pursuing happyness. And tonight, at this instance, at this moment. Right before going to wordpress.com and registering this blog I realized that some of the crossroads that I’m stuck at in pursuing happyness are all illusions.

My current state of being unsatisfied in my career is the current bullet point of my situation. And while I’ve become efficient at curing this ailment and getting myself out of these situations over the years, I’m afraid the old tactics of just moving on to another job won’t cut it anymore.

Yes while I’m suppose to seek happyness within I’m still trying to find it outside. And I’ve only now come to the realization that I can no longer do that.

Finding happyness within isn’t a switch we can just flick, it’s a journey that we all must go on.

This is a project we all must work on. We all have our own Happyness Illusion Project. We all have to learn how to recognize the barriers and tricks the outside world and our mind will play on us to avoid us from achieving happyness.

And with that said, The Happyness Illusion Project was born.